I laugh a lot these days.
It’s not because my life is easy. I’m here fumbling around in this human body trying to make sense of it all, just like everybody else. There’s nothing special about me, and yet there’s everything special about me—just like everyone else! There have been many times in my life when that sentence would have sounded more like “I cry a lot these days.”
So, what has created the shift? Some would say “time is a great healer,” but I don’t believe that. I believe we are our own best healers. It was not the passage of time that shifted my daily experience of life from one of tears to one of laughter. It’s been a very intentional decision made by me and reinforced by me.
If you were to ask most people what they want in life, the majority would tell you that they simply want to be happy. However, most people just can’t seem to get to a true place of happiness. And then there are those select few that appear to be constantly blessed and giggling.
Are the lives of the disheartened group harder than the giggling group? Nope, not usually. We are all here to experience the many joys and challenges of being human. No one gets to escape the unique hardships and heartaches designed specifically for their personal growth and evolution in this human experience.
So, how do you switch from being in the not-so-fun group to the more fun group of people? It’s a decision. And then it’s another decision that reinforces the first decision, and then it’s a lifetime of more decisions that are in alignment with that. Sounds simple? It is. Remember—simple and easy are not the same. This is about a practice of consistent dedication to yourself.
I have a dear friend who has always had so much faith in everything working out in her favor that I used to secretly roll my eyes at her and think she was ridiculous, because, at that time, I felt like life was always out to get me, the other shoe was always going to drop, nothing can be this good, etc. I live my life differently now, and I think she’s one of the most intelligent people I’ve ever known. This is not about absentminded pop culture positive thinking. What I’m talking about is really making a decision about your own mindset and sticking with it no matter what.
I facilitate a lot of PSYCH-K® Subconscious Reprogramming work with my clients (and myself). It’s so great to witness the excitement of those initial shifts, but they don’t always stick because people don’t continue the work. You can’t just go to the gym once, folks. Think of your mind as a muscle that needs regular attention. There’s a huge difference in the results people experience when mindsets are not just shifted but reinforced. If you have any take away from what I’m sharing here, learn this: anyone can temporarily shift their mindset; it takes mastery and discipline to reinforce that shift and make it a daily habit.
Here’s an example from my own life that may help illustrate this more clearly. As I mentioned above, I’ve had a lot of limiting beliefs (I still do, I am a work in progress!). One of my erroneous beliefs was that I didn’t feel supported. So, I did some subconscious reprogramming work about feeling supported. I was working with the simple belief, “I am so supported by the universe!” I started seeing lots of lovely things happening. Then, the proverbial shoe would drop again.
What I did next was what made it all really click—I handled that darn dropping shoe differently. I decided that every moment is in support of me. I can no longer go to the fun event I was going to. It’s a blessing. The package didn’t arrive on time. It’s a blessing. Someone messed up a contract I was supposed to sign. Yup. You guessed it. It’s a blessing because I am supported in ways I can’t possibly understand.
Of course, this doesn’t mean that I don’t feel sad or disappointed. I still feel those things (and it’s important to acknowledge and feel those feelings), but I then tune in to the larger picture of seeing the universe as a loving and supportive place and I reinforce it. From a quantum physics perspective of our thoughts affecting things, if I decide that the universe is a loving and supportive place, it indeed becomes a loving and supportive place.
This shift—coupled with my dedication to reinforcing it—has made such a profound difference in my everyday life. I feel so much more joy and acceptance because there’s a deep knowing that I am divinely supported at all times, and that is my new mantra. You are welcome to use it too. It’s a good one. Feel free to reach out if you’d like assistance. This level of joy is available to you as well.